3 stages of love..

Lust, Physical attraction and Emotional Attachment


"Romantic feelings or lust is the first stage of love. Romantic love is driven by testosterone and estrogen. Mating is the evolutionary purpose of this stage of love; it creates strong physical attraction and sets the stage for emotional attachment. In this stage of love, endorphins soak your brain and you're immersed in intense pleasurable sensations. Your lover is perfect, ideal, made for you. In this stage of love you feel exhilarated and even "high" (similar to the feeling you get after you eat really good chocolate or have a great workout). You feel infatuated in this stage of love.


Physical attraction and power struggles make up the second stage of love (the "lovesick" phase). You may lose your appetite, need less sleep, and daydream about your lover on the bus, during meetings, in the shower. In this stage of love, dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin are racing through your body and brain. You're also trying to shape your lover into your ideal partner – which is where the power struggles come in. In this stage of relationship, you're becoming more realistic, and you two may fight about things like whether or not to buy organic food or listen to country music. The infatuation is wearing off, a strong emotional attachment begins to set in, and feelings of infatuation fade.

Emotional attachment or unconditional acceptance is the third stage of love. Emotional attachment involves commitment, partnership, and even children (a fear of intimacy prevents many from reaching this stage of love). In this stage of love, you're aware of both positive and negative traits in your partner, and you've decided you want to build a life together. Confrontation is most likely to occur in this stage of love (though if you're authentic and honest, it'll also happen in the second stage of love). You and your partner will either work towards a healthy, loving relationship or decide to call it quits. - Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen "





I believe that when you reach the point of emotional attachment and unconditional acceptance it takes you back to the begining, when your hormones were out of control, when you felt like your heart is almost beating for this person and nobody else exists, because its a whole new thing, its the natural human desire for companionship at its highest, when you realise this person can see you, really see you, no bullshit lies or masks of make up or fancy trickery. Just you. And everything is ok with them, even the bad. It can bring back to the initial desire and intensity you felt for the person in the begining because its a whole differnt thrill. the feeling of comfortability to be who you are with no restrictions and feeling safe in exposing those parts of yourself that nobody else really see's.
I used to think love was about intensity and this all encompassing feeling that almost ate you up, but that isnt love, that is lust, that is romantic attraction, it is the desire FOR emotional attachement and unconditional acceptance yet to no prevail. Meaning; when love is crazy like that it has reached a point of no extension. Either one party is willing to stay in the point of lust and never move forward, or there was nowhere to move to in the first place.

We can get lost inside love if it doesnt give us what we want, if it cant accept us and our flaws, because ultimately in this society today with all the fancy bullshit and distractions all we truly want is for someone to accept us, want us, love us and only us, Unconditionally.